I was recently told, "You sure are a go getter." But the comment wasn't necessarily meant as a compliment. It was a very nice way for this friend of mine to tell me I'm being a pain in the butt. My husband would have used a different word, but I want to keep this rated PG. =)
Can I be a pain in the butt? You betcha. My family would heartily agree! When I get a bee in my bonnet, it's hard to focus on anything else. My mom was the same way. It drove everyone nuts. I tend to lean that way, but am not so self absorbed that I can't recognize it. Do I like to be told to back off? Uh, no, but at the same time, I don't want to come across as too forceful.
So, I have this drive, this incredible ability to set a goal and see it through . . . like a bulldozer. For example, writing a book and actually finishing it. (many times over) It's this same ability that made me a runner when all bets were against me. With my screwed up back, scoliosis and everything else, I shouldn't be able to run. I shouldn't want to. But I DO want to. Desperately! So I work, and work, and work . . . until I can do it. It's the same with everything else I really want. I can be very persistent.
My son has this talent too. It drives me crazy.
This drive, this determination, if used wrong, can get in my way. It's like this for everyone. We all have great abilities and talents, but if we don't watch ourselves, they can be stumbling blocks. They can hold us back and irritate others. My challenge to you is to look deep. What do you do that rubs people the wrong way? Can you admit it? Can you change it and use it in the positive? I bet you can.
My goal this week is to not be a pain in the . . . uh, butt.