I just heard this week that my friend Cheri Chelsey's book was accepted by Cedar Fort. At least I hope that is the publisher since that is what I'm posting! Woo hoo, girl! Congrats! What a wonderful feeling.
What I want to write about here is that strange feeling you get when a friend gets accepted but you don't. That twinge of jealousy that erupts when you realize that another spot has been taken and it wasn't for your story. I remember that feeling a bit.
I also want to say that it is perfectly human to feel sorry for yourself in this way. Writing is emotional and we put everything into it. Our time, our passion, our energy. I had a very close friend of mine admit to me once that she worried I would be published before her. She has been writing her whole life, and I just started two years ago. When I was accepted, I worried how she'd feel.
It took a ton of courage for her to admit that. And you know what? I felt the same way. What if she'd gotten published before me? It's hard to own up to these feelings. We always want our friends to know how happy we are for them, but it is a bitter sweet moment for those left behind.
What is the remedy? More writing. That's it. Write your rear end off and keep going. That's all we can do. When you finish a book, start another, and another. And just remember, your time will come. IT WILL IF YOU DON'T GIVE UP. That is the secret. Those who get published are those who don't quit.
Go to every conference. Sign up for those "one on one's," and meet as many people as you can. Network, set up a blog, get on facebook. GET YOUR NAME OUT THERE! I promise, if you keep on keeping on, you will be published.
Keep a smile on your face and hope in your heart!