I know I seem to only write about my editor's comments, but it's so easy and entertaining! I hope she doesn't mind.
Today in her notes to me, I read that my my huge, gorgeous, hunk of a warrior (who becomes a main character) sighs too much and seems too effeminate. At first, I laughed. Then I was grateful she picked up on that. I certainly don't want a girly warrior on my hands. I have a tendency to make my women witchy (I would have used the other word, but I need to keep this PG) and my boys feminine. It irritates me that I do that, but it's hard to think like a boy. I've never been one, you know.
As my fourteen year old son read my ms the first time, he would frequently turn to me and say, "No boy would ever say that." I guess I imagine that everyone thinks like me, men and women alike, which I know isn't true. I have been married for fifteen years, after all.
It makes me wonder how many others do that. Is this why so many people struggle in their marriages or other relationships? Because we expect everyone to "get" where we're coming from? I can't count how many times I've had to fix something I've said, explaining what I really meant. How can we be so off? I'm lucky I have a husband who "gets" me. He lets things roll of his back and hardly ever gets irritated by things I say. Could anyone else be more perfect for me? I doubt it.
Well, off to editing I go with the intent to make my men more manly and my women a tad bit nicer!